Alessia Spagnulo on Finding Strength in the Toughest Moments

April 1, 2025

“If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that nothing is set in stone. And today, I want to write my own happy ending.“

IN CONVERSATION WITH ALESSIA SPAGNULO

In the world of digital creation, where curated perfection often takes precedence over raw authenticity, Alessia Spagnulo stands out. Not because she’s crafted an image of unattainable luxury or staged happiness, but because her story is real, complicated, and, above all, human.

Born in a small town in the province of Taranto, Alessia’s early years were filled with the warmth of family and childhood dreams. Then, in an instant, everything changed.

“My father was arrested for mafia-related charges, and overnight, I found myself torn away from everything I knew,” she recalls. Uprooted and relocated to a remote village in Abruzzo, her childhood came to an abrupt end.

“I carried the weight of a last name that now only meant shame, anger, and pain.”

Today, Alessia is far from that lost girl forced to start over. Living in Abruzzo but planning a move to Naples, she juggles life as a digital creator, mother, and entrepreneur.

Her journey into the world of content creation was not a planned career path but a form of survival.

“It wasn’t a childhood dream—it was a necessity. A way to take back control.” That moment came in 2018 when she stepped onto the Miss Italia stage with her baby in a carrier.

“A small but powerful revolution,” she says. The image went viral, opening doors to television appearances and a career she never expected.

But behind every success story, there’s a struggle. Alessia faced separation, financial instability, and the weight of a past she never chose.

“When I became pregnant and told my employer, I was immediately fired. I was young, alone, expecting a baby, and had no financial security. That was the moment I decided my life would not be a failure.”

Now, as she prepares to welcome her second child, Alessia is focused on the future. She dreams of taking part in a reality show, pushing herself beyond the carefully curated life of social media. “

“My greatest achievement?” Alessia says. ” Climbing out of the abyss. I am here today, telling my story—not as a broken woman, but as someone who has found her own path.

“My story deserves to be told. I want anyone going through a tough time to look at me and realize that there is always a way out.”

In our conversation, we dive into Alessia’s journey—her battles, her resilience, and her unwavering determination to reclaim her narrative.

From her most extraordinary travels to the realities of mental health, she opens up with striking honesty. This is a story of reinvention, survival, and the quiet power of choosing to start over.

I FELT LIKE A PRISONER OF A PAST I HADN’T CHOSEN

I was born and raised in a small town in the province of Taranto, a place that meant home, affection, and roots to me. That’s where my friends were, my childhood dreams, my family.

Then, all of a sudden, my life was turned upside down. My father was arrested for mafia-related charges, and overnight, I found myself torn away from everything I knew. I had to leave my world behind and move to a remote village in the province of Teramo, almost in Abruzzo.

It wasn’t just a move—it was a forced farewell to my childhood, to my identity.

I don’t want to speak ill of those wonderful places, but for me, they felt like a sentence.

I carried the weight of a last name that now only meant shame, anger, and pain.

I watched other girls my age living carefree lives while I felt like a prisoner of a past I hadn’t chosen and a future that seemed already written for me.

AN OPPORTUNITY TO PROVE MYSELF

Today, I still live in Abruzzo, but I plan to move to Naples soon, my partner’s city—a place full of life that reminds me of the part of myself I lost along the way.

My daily life is a constant race: working as a digital creator, being a mother, and building a new family.

Every day is a struggle, but also an opportunity to prove to myself that my past does not define me—that I can be much more than what life tried to impose on me.

STRENGTH I DIDN’T KNOW I EVEN HAD

It wasn’t a childhood dream to become a digital creator—it was a necessity. A way to take back control.

It all started in 2018 when I participated in Miss Italia with my daughter in a baby carrier. A spontaneous gesture, a small but powerful revolution.

I wasn’t just a girl on stage; I was a mother carrying the symbol of strength I didn’t even know I had.

That image went viral, and my story touched the hearts of many people.

From there, I was invited to TV shows like La Vita in Diretta with Francesca Fialdini and Storie di Vita with Eleonora Daniele. Then came Uomini e Donne, where I was a contestant for Luca Daffré.

But behind every success, there was pain. The pain of a separation shattered me. The pain of a past repeating itself.

As a child, I had experienced the absence of a father, and as an adult, I found myself watching my daughter grow up without hers. It was like a wound reopening, a scar that never had the chance to heal.

As if that wasn’t enough, when I became pregnant and informed my employer, I was immediately fired. I was no longer useful, no longer needed. It was a devastating blow.

I was young, alone, expecting a baby, and had no financial security. That was the moment I decided my life would not be a failure.

I lifted my head and chose to build my own future, to turn my pain into strength. And that’s how my career as a digital creator was born.

I WOULDN’T BE THE VICTIM OF MY STORY

No one can go through what I’ve been through without breaking down.

There were days when I couldn’t get out of bed, days when I looked in the mirror and saw nothing but a broken, empty girl.

I had moments when I felt like I couldn’t go on when everything seemed too overwhelming. And yet, every time, I found a reason to stand back up.

Sometimes it was my daughter’s smile. Sometimes it was anger—the determination to prove that I wouldn’t be a victim of my story.

I HAVE FACED PAIN AND RISEN AGAIN

I’ve been lucky enough to visit beautiful places like Greece, Mykonos, and Egypt. Each place had its own magic, its own story.

But what has stayed with me the most isn’t just the landscapes—it’s the people I’ve met along the way.

I’ve spoken with women who, like me, have faced pain and risen again.

I’ve seen smiles that warmed my heart more than any breathtaking sunset ever could. In the end, it’s the connections we make that give meaning to our journeys.

IT IS ALWAYS POSSIBLE TO START OVER

I have a dream close to my heart: to take part in a reality show. I love challenges, and this would be the ultimate challenge.

I want to push myself, to show who I truly am, without filters. Because my story deserves to be told.

I want anyone going through a tough time to look at me and realise that there is always a way out—that it is always possible to start over.

And then there’s some big news…I’m expecting my second child. The first for my partner. We haven’t officially announced it yet, but after this interview, we will.

It’s an incredible feeling—a new beginning. And for the first time in my life, I feel like I’m building something solid, something real. A family, a future, a happiness that no longer depends only on the past.

My story is one of pain, of falls, of rebirths. But if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that nothing is set in stone. Today, I want to write my own happy ending.